How to Flirt

Step 1Start by working on your self-esteem. The underlying key to all flirtation is confidence, the magical charm that makes others want to get to know you.

Step 2Smile, smile, smile.

Step 3Think playful thoughts when gearing up to flirt. Flirts are fun and engaging, and they love to play with others.

Step 4Compliment a stranger or acquaintance on his or her clothes, eyes, smile or sense of humor for starters.

Step 5Keep your body language open and inviting: make eye contact, lightly touch the person's hand or arm when telling a story, toss your head back when you laugh.

Step 6Initiate stimulating conversation. At a loss for words? Ask open-ended questions about the flirtee's job, hometown, family, recent movies seen, or thoughts about a painting on the wall.

Step 7Open up about yourself, giving someone even more reason to like you. But don't go on and on - the goal is to engage and intrigue, not bore.

Step 8Gauge the person's interest carefully. If you sense a flashing red light - or worse, smug ridicule - make your exit graciously, and immediately. You've got nicer people to meet.

Step 9Progress in your flirtation, paying attention to cues from the object of your interest. If you perceive a sensual or sexual connection, make a bold move - ask for a date.